Strong plants need strong roots. Deep roots. The kind that come from digging into life and getting serious – about living, about loving. When life goes dry, deep roots can survive. They tap underground reservoirs, their inner strength so to speak, and withstand the tough spells.
Unlike their counterparts. Having a shallow root system is like living life on the surface. It’s a superficial existence. Unable to withstand the droughts of life, these plants succumb to the elements at hand. Like superficial relationships, they won’t survive difficult times, but instead, wither away and die.
A simple example, but it can remind us to take stock of our soil, our emotional makeup. If it’s not rich and porous, then we need to make it so. Open up, loosen up. Compacted soil discourages root growth, much like hard set attitudes discourage emotional growth, mental growth. Transformation.
Get out of your comfort zone. Mix it up with those who differ from yourself, not only in style and manner, but opinion, outlook. Perspective. Ask questions and get answers. Have a problem, dig in – turn it, analyze it, amend it. Resolve it. Don’t stick your head in the sand. Don’t close up. Peel through the layers and get to the heart of it; yours.
The best relationships begin at the center—as in, the one we share with our self. No matter how you slice it, if we don’t have a solid healthy relationship with ourselves, we will not be able to manage one with others. It’s an age old truth. Like the key to healthy plants.
Plants have simple needs: food, sun and water, yet we still have trouble supplying them. Humans have simple needs: touch, honesty and love, yet we still have trouble supplying them.
If we harbor hate and anger, let them go. The negativity will eat away at us like disease on a plant. It will infect every fiber of our being, turning the most vibrant bloom into a sickly, clump of bitterness – which will spread - infecting all of those around us. Next, predators will seek us out and consume what’s left. That’s how nature works.
But a strong, well-grounded plant is a healthy plant, and our best defense. Once the soil is aerated - issues aired out – create a “well” of support around your base. Start with family, friends and neighbors. Let them surround you, keep you consistent, guard against run-off and stake claim to your turf.
And very important, choose your “gardener” well. When you’re ready to rope off your garden, till rows and reproduce, find one willing to do the hard work, the daily maintenance. Find a man willing to get his hands dirty, to cut back diseased leaves and encourage new growth. Whether it’s husband, family or friend, without this attention to detail, the bounty produced from your relationships won’t be near as lush and plentiful as it could be.
And isn’t that the goal?